Move on

 Move On!

Everybody goes through a phase, listening to this "Everything just happened as it's written, Now Move on!!" If you did, Shake your hands with me I had been there once. Let me share my experience. I still think of that disturbing past and distract myself from thinking about what's happening in my present and who my advocates are. Sometimes I think, I was right by telling some 'White Lies' and overcoming the toxicity I have always wanted. Maybe that was written or I wrote that to my fate. Anyway, Now I am trying to get over it and soon I will be. I always feel glad about myself after saying these. One day, you will too. Maybe You or I were wrong, but you'll get over it as I am trying to do now! Here are some key pieces (I mean ways/ideas to overcome your distressing betrayals and toxic relations with people):

1. Find your contemporary: (It's okay to spend some effort and understand them)

My best friend, a complete introvert with the best sense of humour in the 

world, gave this advice. When I was discussing about the things and    

  

incidents that happened with me, 

 he just said one thing, "Either 

replace them or Face them". I had 

to think about it when he said that. 

Indeed I would take that step until

 I realised, I was the one who kept

 feeling like a worthless and left-out

 person. From hearing someone saying

 this to me "Adi ante ayipoindi" to 

saying this for myself as "Pote poni"

 I have met wonderful people later. 

So, it's never too late for anything you earn or anything you miss. Either it's Money or People or 

"Anything". To confirm, my best friend is still my best friend.

                           

2. Share with your Rectors: (Good ones) (the perfect-person vibe)

Peers, I had written about them in my first blog. They give us pressure and I mentioned

 that, it's okay to have some peer pressure 

but only if they are the right ones. Sometimes,              

   treat your Peer as a Rector. So, Explore 

as much as you want, but only talk to a

 few and share with one. It's not that hard

 until the opposite person is okay and 

comfortable with you. I had this one Rector,

 with whom I always wanted to share everything,

 my good, my bad, everything. But, you know

 what, sometimes the "systems" deny to work.

 (iykyk). But still, my peer is the best Rector I have

ever had! <3

3. Run away  from the things you feel uncomfortable with:

Suppose, if you grew up in a traumatic family,

 (90% of the people do live! Remember that!) 

and you gave up on the things that you no           

longer needed and dragged your mental

 status so badly, then just RUN. No matter 

what they think about you or if they call 

you a 'narcissist' just RUN AWAY. You may

 call that selfishness, but sometimes, it's okay

 to be selfish and if you are not in that situation,

 remember you lost your life before you Die!

4. Learn Dance: (if you don't know)

I was a great dancer and I am still (ofc ;) ). But, let me share a few things you can

 feel during a dance session,                  

i. You forget everything for the moment

 and just think about yourself through your 

moves until and unless it's 'Salsa'. i have

  never done Salsa before (Kabhi 

acha bandha mila hi nahi). 

ii. The main thing, You Enjoy it.

 Now, who doesn't want to enjoy 

their Izzy-busy Life? All you need is a little amount  of time rather than a Monday phobia (iykyk).

iii. My favourite, you make your own concert while dancing. Now, that's impressive, right? So, make 

your first move the best move!

5. (Parental Advice) If you have kids, don't get irritated, but find an alternative:

I have recently listened to a TED Talk "Molly Wright: How every child can thrive by five" which motivated me to include this Line in the 

"Move On!" blog. Parents are such a gift    to every         

child but still not everyone is lucky right?

 There are some circumstances where a

 Child becomes a Teen and thinks  of the past.

 The good one or the bad one. If the past

was a good one, then you are so lucky to make your

 child's future even brighter. But, if it's

Bad, unfortunately, you can't help 

them to overcome it. Believe to be the Better 

you and embrace the Change while spending time with  them.

6. Change your seasons: A year has 4-5 seasons, right? and I suggest changing our zeal in the same ways. That sounds different. I am a heliophile,

 I love the Sun and its rays without a fear of                     

how much I get tanned. Not to flex, but I have

 never applied sunscreen too. Because That is

 how I respect everything in nature. So, once

 there was a cool breeze, giving hope that it'll rain

 (in summer) and as you all know, Indian Moms 

worry about laundry on the terrace rather than 

anything during that time. So, I went upstairs.

 It was a huge cold breeze, and the playground beside 

our home was even sandstorming. I was picking up the             

laundry when I suddenly felt the cool breeze; it was so refreshing, like the most wonderful hug I have ever received. The lesson I have learnt is, that "Sometimes it's okay to change your seasons i.e; the way you live, your attitude and your destinations".

So, my dearest blog readers, Moving on isn't easy, but if you even think to try it, then Congratulations, You are on your best way to succeed in life.

Love you too <3